warning, this is a rant.
I’m recovering today after a random stomach virus that had me up all night for no reason other than to make me miserable this morning. and in order to compound my feelings of dread this morning, I got an email that made me scream so loud and so long in my head that I’ve given myself a headache.
Have you ever had a drama queen for a friend?
I have. I’ve had one for a while and I’ve always tried to be patient, but I think I’m just about at the end of the rope. When things seem totally normal to me, things are horrifically awful to her. She just wrote me a doozey of a long letter telling me that because I haven’t seen her and barely talked to her in six months that I clearly don’t value our friendship and that I am the worst friend in the world. I am, actually, a bad, bad person. (“think about it, sj, would a good person make her friends feel bad?” there’s a healthy dose of irony in that)
Truthfully, I tuned out after the third paragraph. The gist of it was: you are a bad person for making me feel badly about myself. You don’t value our friendship, you never call me, you never want to talk to me, you see your other friends more than you see me and I only live 30 minutes away (really, at this point, can you blame me?), etc, etc. it went on and on. My favorite was that I apparently am not allowed to spend too much time with my family since: "You're not as close to your family as I am to mine."
I think that if it was possible to include a wav file so that dramatic music played in the background, she would have done it.
I had tried to take the high road explaining that I don’t have the ability to talk to everyone all the time, and I spread myself thin amongst my friends etc.
I still love my friends and consider them all wonderful people who don’t make me check in with them all the time because, truly, they understand that just because I don’t call them back within a day or two, it doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less and won’t call them.
I don’t think I’ll bother responding to the email.
There are enough stresses in everyday life that I don’t need to deal with toxic people. If you think i am evil, do not be my friend. i think that's a general rule for everyone to follow.
So many books...
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